Seriously, stop cheating on your deployed husbands. Those of us who aren’t slutty are tired of dealing with the aftermath.
I am so tired of taking up the little time I have to talk to my husband with lines such as: “Really, honey, I’m not cheating on you.” and “I promise, babe, I miss all of YOU not just your anatomy!” Why should I have to waste this time with him? Because some wife decided that instead of waiting around for her husband, she’d just jump someone who’s home.
Now, I’m not saying it is all the wife’s fault. I’m sure it isn’t, however, why stay in a relationship if you’re so unhappy that you’ll sleep with someone else? Serve him papers and move on. I honestly don’t understand it. Some guys (8 months into a deployment) are finding out their wives have been cheating for months. What?!
I’m sure some would say, “oh, my husband knows I’d never cheat on him so it wouldn’t be an issue,” don’t count on it is what I say. My husband knows the same thing and he even says he knows I wouldn’t. But, away from home he admits it’s hard to keep the worry away when you hear that guys who thought the same thing find out they were wrong.
I’ll never understand it. Never.
Some wouldn’t believe the shady things that go on around military bases. Wives who have a husband in one division and a boyfriend in another. They deploy at opposite times, so there’s never an overlap. Yuck. Are the guys innocent? No, probably just as bad, but I honestly hear less about guys cheating than girls. And let me tell you that if that guy is a soldier, he has hell to pay. But, the reaction is a shrug and a shake of the head for the jerk who cheated on his wife. When the role is reversed, well, the reaction is extremely different.
So, all of this brings me to a question I’ve been asking myself for a while. Are we still lost in some dark age where there are different expectations for men and women? Or are women wired in a more conducive way for monogamy, leading us to expect women to be more monogamous than men? I think this is more aimed at military families and because it’s all I’ve known for the past 4.5 years, it’s all I feel I can address.
When I hear about a man soldier cheating on his wife, yeah, it makes me mad. But, when I hear about a wife cheating on her husband, especially when he’s deployed … oh boy, it makes me shake. Why? Well, part of it is that he is out putting his life on the line. If his head isn’t on his work, but on his wife and what she’s doing, then there could be serious consequences. Selfishly, his actions could directly affect my husband’s life. So, I figure that if a woman decides she doesn’t want to be married anymore during a deployment, then suck it up and let him get home before serving papers or lifting your skirt.